Therapy for Fear of Abandonment in Long Beach
Overcoming The Pain of Feeling Unwanted
I don’t think everyone grows up with a completely secure attachment. We all have experienced some sort of emotional misattunement, loss, or unmet need. In fact, it’s only part of being human. However, for some of us, these unmet emotional needs are deep, painful wounds and affect our daily lives. Perhaps it has stemmed from childhood and/or years of distressful events. Either way, when abandonment wounds go unresolved, they don’t just simply “stay in the past.” In fact, it affects our daily ability to think rationally, make decisions, conquer our fears, follow our dreams, and form healthy, secure relationships. After years and years of giving therapy, I have seen how much these unresolved wounds affect and sabotage people’s ability to let go and fully be their authentic self.
Together, I truly hope to walk side by side and provide a secure place for you to let go and free yourself from these wounds.
How Psychodynamic Therapy Heals Deep-Rooted Abandonment Wounds
Through our work together, I hope to uncover and reveal where these wounds have stemmed from and how they have shaped your internal view of relationships. I also hope to help my clients build a stronger sense of self, internal security, and self-worth. Through a trauma-informed, psychodynamic approach, we’ll gently uncover the roots of this fear and help you develop tools for stability, trust, and closeness — both with yourself and others.
How Fear of Abandonment and Attachment Anxiety Affect Everyday Life
Anxiety About Closeness/Distance
People Pleasing/Over Accommodation
Difficulty Trusting Stability
Deep Sensitivity to Perceived Rejection
Emotional Over-Attunement
Long Term Depth Work Allows Clients to:
Reveal Hidden Fears/Expectations
Many of us carry unconscious anxieties about rejection, abandonment, or being “not enough.” Therapy helps bring these hidden fears into awareness so they no longer unconsciously drive your thoughts, feelings, or behaviors.
Link Old Emotional Wounds to Current Triggers
Patterns in relationships, work, or self-perception often stem from unresolved early experiences. Psychodynamic therapy can illuminate the connection between past wounds and present-day reactions, helping you break cycles that no longer serve you.
Bring Unconscious Patterns to Light
By observing recurring behaviors, emotional reactions, or relationship dynamics, therapy helps uncover unconscious patterns. Awareness is the first step toward creating lasting change.
Develop A More Stable Sense of Self
Through insight and reflection, you can strengthen your internal security, increase self-worth, and reduce reliance on external validation. This fosters confidence in decision-making and emotional resilience.
Support Healthier Relationship Patterns
As you process past relational experiences and internal triggers, therapy can guide you toward more secure, authentic connections with partners, friends, and family.
Process Suppressed, Old Wounds That Were Previously Avoided
Many abandonment-related emotions have been suppressed for years. Therapy provides a safe space to process grief, shame, and anger that was previously avoided or unacknowledged.
Allow More Emotional Expression and Self Regulation
Learning to recognize, express, and regulate your emotions is central to psychodynamic therapy. Over time, this increases your capacity for intimacy, trust, and meaningful connection — both with yourself and others.
You Don’t need to be in this journey alone. The first step towards finding inner peace and healing is to reach out. I provide an initial 15-minute phone consultation to discuss your needs and if we are a good fit.